Are You Burning Out?

Posted by dianne on Mar 1, 2010 in Newsletters | | No comment

Are You Burning Out?

Is your job getting you down? Do you feel like you need a break or you just might explode? Here is an excerpt from my book, “Ice the Burnout.” This is stress-buster #17 of 20.

Leave Work at Work

Whether you are a CEO or a checker who has to balance a cash register at the end of the day, everyone has job stress. It can build up all day long and sometimes it just sits on your shoulders at the end of the day. One of the best ways to avoid burnout is to leave work at work.

It’s not always easy to do. Most of us identify strongly with our jobs. We can start to feel that what we do equals who we are. It takes effort not to take work problems or challenges home with you.

Here’s a method that might work for you:

  • Take time at the end of the day to clear your desk and your mind.
  • Think about what challenge or project you need to address first thing tomorrow.
  • Write it down, along with any notes that might get you off to a good start.
  • Take a few deep breaths.
  • Use your commute time to refocus on a pleasant plan for the evening.

My friend, Cheryl, told me about a technique she used for letting go of work when taking a vacation from a stressful job. The first day of her vacation included a boat ride. She said that she pictured physically dropping the job stress into the lake. She knew that if she needed to hoist that burden back onto her shoulders on her way home, she would be able to find it.


Too Nice to Stay Motivated – Part 2

Last month I told you about a plan that a colleague, Deb DiSandro, and I had embraced to keep ourselves motivated. We each wrote down our do-or-die resolution for the week and hung $20 bills over our desks. If we didn’t reach our goal, our $20 went to charity.

Here is what I learned. Money is a great motivator. We each hit our goal 3 out of 4 weeks. We each fessed up to falling short one week and sent our contributions. Mine went to help Heifer International in a special project for Haiti; Deb’s went to Families Helping Families in Naperville which serves the homeless. (Yes there are even homeless in the suburbs.)

As motivating as the $20 commitment was, it wasn’t magic. It didn’t make it easy to reach my goal. Week 2 was the week I missed my goal. My goal for the third week was to work on my book-in-progress You’re Anxious and Depressed? Me Too! for 30 minutes 5 days that week. On Wednesday I was really busy working on clients’ writing projects and I wasn’t feeling inspired to switch gears to work on my book.

My interior dialogue went like this:

Quitter D: “I don’t want to play anymore. This is hard!”
Mature Dianne: “You can’t quit in the middle of the week. You promised, Deb. And you can’t blow it two weeks in a row. Come on!
Quitter D: “Well, OK. I’ll finish this week. But then I’m quitting. When we check in, I’ll just tell Deb this isn’t working for me…”
Mature Dianne: Wait a minute! I recognize you. I’ve seen you before. Your name is Resistance. This IS working for you. This agreement is making you stick to your commitment even if it gets hard — even if you want to resist!
Quitter D: (Speechless, shrugged and walked away looking sheepish)

So that’s how it’s going.


I Am Ready to Speak

My friends, I have been “getting ready” to speak on Anxiety and Depression for several years now and I am here to tell you: I am ready! I gave that speech for the first time last Sunday. It went very well and I am looking for more audiences. I promise you this is not a “downer” kind of speech. It is encouraging and uplifting. Women’s groups, mothers, caregivers, and church groups would be ideal audiences for me.

You may hear of a group that needs a speaker. Please consider sending them to me. The title of the speech is the same as my book. You’re Anxious and Depressed? Me Too! How I learned to Stop Crying at McDonald’s and Got on with My Life If you would like more details, please send me an e-mail. I’d love to tell you all about it.


If you would like to use any of these articles, you are welcome to do so as long as you include this credit:

By Dianne Morr, professional speaker and author of Ice the Burnout! 20 Ways to Make Your life Better. She is at work on her next book, You’re Anxious and Depressed? Me Too! As a writing coach, editor and book shepherd, Dianne can help you take your writing project from wherever it is to DONE.


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